Wali's Checklist: 10 Questions to Ask a Brother
Word-for-word script. Deen, character, work, family, intentions, prior history.
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For the Wali
A brother just called about your daughter. Here's what to ask.
Most fathers, brothers, uncles, and imams who become walis have never been trained for the role. This is your script — what questions to ask, how to decide, and how Zawji's flow protects your daughter's interests.
"When the brother called, I used the 10-question checklist. Within 60 minutes I knew whether to proceed. That structure didn't exist anywhere else."
— Father of a Zawji member
Quick answers
Does my daughter contact brothers directly on Zawji?+
She browses profiles and accepts/declines match-requests on her own. Chat is private and moderated (auto-filter blocks numbers and images; admin reviews flagged messages daily). She decides when to take it seriously. When she does, she shares your number in chat — and the brother is expected to call you directly.
Can a brother call me without my daughter's knowledge?+
No. He doesn't have your number until she chooses to share it. The signal to call comes from her. You won't get a cold call from someone she hasn't approved.
What does the wali's role look like on Zawji?+
You aren't on the app. You enter when she's ready to take a match seriously. From that point, you do what walis traditionally do: evaluate the brother, ask hard questions, meet his family (sittning), and decide whether to facilitate or decline. Zawji's role ends at introducing the brother to you.
How long does the process typically take?+
From first match-request to sittning: typically 3-6 weeks. From sittning to nikah: 4 weeks to 6 months. Pace varies by family. Zawji does not pressure timelines.
What if I'm uncomfortable with my daughter using a platform?+
That's a fair concern. Zawji is built to address it: no photos exist in the system, chat is moderated, your number isn't shared without her consent, and the platform doesn't bypass you — it routes the brother TO you. If after reviewing this page you have remaining concerns, email hej@zawji.se. Fuaad reads it personally.
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